We're still reflecting and expanding upon Bolton's statement that "children automatically share in the moral merits and demerits of their parents, and indirectly those of the society they belong to." While this seems to make children "less than human," it actually means that they are human right from the start, in that they are engaging in psychic transactions with those around them, probably even in the womb -- and it is through these psychic transactions that we become -- or fail to become -- who we are. (I wish I had time to get into some of the fascinating cutting-edge research into pre-natal consciousness, for example, here and here, or here, for what looks like a more popularized application of the ideas.)
An important point is that these psychic transmissions are projected back and forth from parent to child, within the fluid and boundary-less transitional space between them. For example, a hungry or frightened infant cannot imagine the absence of anything, only the presence of something bad. This "bad object" is projected into the good mother, who transforms it into the experience of a soothing good object, which the child internalizes. Please don't to be too literal, but try to imagine it in a more poetic and less mechanistic way. In a way, it's easier to think about when something goes wrong in the relationship -- say, a depressed or otherwise emotionally unavailable mother -- which will result in the inability of the baby to metabolize and transform his bad objects, which is how they gradually "solidify" into enduring mind parasites. What to do with them?
Psychotherapy is one way, but that's only been in existence for a hundred years or so, and even then it usually only proceeds on a pretty superficial basis. Most people end up dealing with them in a pathological way, either through the development of symptoms or through acting out. To greatly simplify, you could say that a neurotic mostly keeps his mind parasites to himself, while the person with a Personality Disorder (i.e., Borderline, Narcissistic, Paranoid) inevitably involves others in his or her psychodrama. If the world were filled only with neurotic people, it would pretty much be paradise, or as close as you can get to it on earth. This is because neurotics mostly hurt themselves and maybe disappoint or frustrate others, but they aren't sadistic or murderous, and are mostly prone to distorting reality in less significant ways, like unconsciously confusing your wife with your mother, not Jews with Satan or President Bush with Hitler.
In fact, I would go so far as to say that if you even know you have mind parasites with their own agendas, you are more evolved than around 99% of the humans who have ever lived. Most of the real wholesale evil in the world is obviously caused by failure to recognize the existence of mind parasites and consequently projecting them into others for their elimination. Imagine if Yasser Arafat could have paused for a moment and pondered the question, "why do I hate Jews so much? Where did that come from? And why the hell am I displacing this hatred from the real bad object, which is Islam? And why am I attracted to young men? Could it be because of the Islamic fear and degradation of women? Or was it because I was so indulged by my mother that I'm afraid of being devoured by her vagina? Yeah, that's probably it."
Liberals, of course, want us to understand the terrorists. But one of the first things I learned in my psychoanalytic training is that real empathy has nothing to do with reinforcing someone's delusions just to make them feel better. Rather, it must involve things like confrontation, interpretation, clarification, etc. So the most empathic thing you could do for a bin Laden -- for the whole Muslim world, for that matter -- is to confront them with the truth of which they are so desperately in need, for a mind deprived of truth still "needs to eat," but it will feed on lies, which in turn creates a monster. Lies are monster food. All monsters feed on lies. They are the lie made flesh.
Hitler could not have been the monster he was without a steady diet of outrageous lies with no connection whatsoever to reality. Stalin, Castro, Arafat, Pol Pot, and all the rest of the 20th century monster club -- all were soulless zombies because of their fidelity to the Lie which created them. In this regard, you can certainly see how ideology becomes a substitute religion rooted in the satanic eucharist (or "dyscharist") of ingesting the Lie. Once the liar is in place, he needs a steady diet of more lies in order to maintain himself. Conversely, he will respond to truth in the way a vampire reacts to garlic or a Clinton to media scrutiny.
So, just as grace enters the human plane "from above" and then recirculates in unpredictable ways, even causing it to operate in people who specifically reject the very possibility, the Lie works in the same way. The Lie is a kind of anti-grace, as it were, which also circulates in the psychic economy and which will be picked up by susceptible host-minds. One of the primary tasks of the MSM is to propagate these parasites in a rapid and efficient manner to the most weak and susceptible minds. This is why there can be a huge shift in the populace based upon whom a few mouth-breathers in Iowa think should be president. Obviously, no rational person would change his mind on that basis, but the people called "independents" are, more often than not, better described as the "confused" and "easily manipulated." There is nothing admirable about them, any more than there is something admirable about Switzerland maintaining its neutrality in World War II.
In fact, the media would do us all a great service if they would stop flattering these weak-willed people with the term "independent." Rather, they should say something like, "it's a huge battle between McCain and Obama for who can pick up the most confused and easily manipulated voters. Obviously, these people could go either way, since they are so emotional and illogical, and have no core principles. The Clinton campaign is hoping that the former president -- the unsurpassed king of manipulation -- will be able to sway the results."
Now, back to the mind parasites. Bolton makes a very provocative statement where he writes about their potentially positive function, if not taken in isolation from the total human -- even cosmic -- system. That is, "having children may be a way of off-leading one's karmic debts. Those who dislike this doctrine usually ignore its equal implication that rewards earned by the virtues of ancestors must also be inheritable." Thus, the act of inheriting life at all must mean inheriting both goods and evils from the ancestors, and to expect to receive only good is a result of sentimentality (emphasis mine).
Let's take the example of the depressed mother who is unable for whatever reason to appropriately respond to her infant. She herself is afflicted by a mind parasite that is causing her depression, or addiction, or whatever. Where did it come from? In all likelihood she has no idea, as she's never thought about it, certainly not in any systematic way. Therefore, her only way to process it is by doing to her child what was done to her, effectively projecting the parasite into her child, who may or may not be able to deal with it in his life.
I cannot tell you how often I have seen this and similar scenarios play out through the generations. Most psychologists see a few patients over a longer period, but the nature of my work in forensic psychology means that I see a lot of patients -- especially including patients you'd never otherwise see in the mental health system -- for a short but intense period, in which I review their entire life. You'd be surprised how often they tell me things that they have shared with no one else in their entire life. As a result, I have a somewhat unique vantage point on the mind parasites and their inter-generational transmission. I can see how they differ in different cultures and different nations, and the differing strategies for dealing with them.
It always reminds me of that opening scene in Blue Velvet, where the guy is mowing his beautiful suburban lawn, but then the camera draws closer and closer, until you can see all the subterranean monsters that dwell just below the surface. I grew up in that kind of place. Only some 20 years later did I learn, for example, that my best friend's father, who lived next door, was molesting his two little sisters for years. Or how the wife of the Christian fundamentalist family who lived next door on the other side was having a torrid affair with the Deacon.
Other parasites were more visible. For example, there was the young Mormon (which made it all the more surprising, not to mention comedic) couple who lived across the street. One day they got into a fight, and the wife tore off his toupe and threw it on our roof. The man had to sheepishly slither over like some kind of sheepsnake and ask if he could borrow our ladder to get his hair off our roof. I still remember the distinct look in my father's face, which wordlessly said that's not a proper man. I vowed then and there that no woman would ever steal my wig:
So, what's our lesson today? I guess we'll get into that tomorrow. But let's allow Bolton to provide a hint: The gradual accumulation of real power results from "the progressive exhaustion of the hostile reactions which were occasioned by one's own negative potentialities and the ones which one had inherited."
By the way, someone out there needs to do his duty and buy my book and stop being a cosmic freeloader. I'm obviously not in this for the money, but it's not good for your karma to mooch so much daily bread. At the moment, it's down to #440,112 on amazon, and that's a little embarrassing, not just for me, but for the whole transdimensional order. Let's not tarnish the Coon brand. Or if that's impossible, let's at least keep the sucker in print! Remember, our fundraising goal for 2008 is for Bob to actually see the mythic royalty check which has thus far eluded him. BTW, if there's still a market for signed copies with your own personally inscribed insult or limerick or both, I suppose I could always purchase some more copies from my penurious publisher, Ebeneezer & Sons.
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So we're going to war again.
Let's not take it personally.
Hey Joe
It was meant ironically. But the fight does has to come to the enemy.
Real soon.
"I'm going out to shoot my old parasites
Since I projected them into my old lady now."
Past that.
"I'm a lover not a fighter".
But there is heavy lifting required in the ME.
Bob-
I'm an independent, only because I think the Repubs are too far left and they seem to be getting lefter.
Smoov- We need do deal with these people in a way they understand. They don't seem to get the message otherwise and it's costing too many innocent lives. Besides think of how much we will reduce carbon dioxide emissions when so many in the ME stop breathing. We will help them move on to their next karmic stop on the great voyage and also reduce our own nuclear arsenal. So many benefits, so little time.
debass:
Yes, of course -- rejecting both is not the same as being seduced by both.
"By the way, someone out there needs to do his duty and buy my book and stop being a cosmic freeloader."
By the now firmly established principle of syncoonicity, a new OCUG ad campaign starts today. Ignore at your own peril!
One Raccoon Over Cosmos
attracted to light
two flatlanders witness the
seventh dimension
I think of that line from Casablanca, when Rick says to Ugarte, “I don’t mind a parasite. I object to a cut-rate one.”
Are we to spend some time in Hillary purgatory before we can wiggin' out from mind parasites?
Bob said:
"failure to recognize the existence of mind parasites and consequently projecting them into others for their elimination"
Temporary 'elimination' at best, isn't it?
Along the line of 'release mechanism' for built-up internal pressure?
I think being a lover AND a fighter is more fun and makes for a much more well rounded iamdividual.
Which is why I was always perplexed when someone would ask, "do you want to be right, or happy?
Duh! Both of course. They're not mutually exclusive.
"I'm going out to shoot my old parasites
Since I projected them into my old lady now."
Bob,
Would you say that this is the cause of the disgust/disillusion many people feel when they get caught up in a whirlwind pedal to the metal psycho/sexual relationship only to find a few months down the road that they can't stand the other person? In that in addition to the obvious overlooked flaws, alot of what a person doesn't like about themselves is projected into the other and made to look as if it is the others problem?
I don't know why I asked this since I already know the answer is YES!
>> . . . "the progressive exhaustion of the hostile reactions which were occasioned by one's own negative potentialities and the ones which one had inherited." <<
Self-attention with a dollop of faith sure helps. And speaking of this:
I figgers as to how the negative karma/parasites of which Bolton speaks actually are something of a Godsend in final analysis. Ultimately they serve to hone self-awareness, self-attention, in short, *consciousness*, which otherwise would exist as a gray, unactivated background of being.
BTW, I already have two copies of Bob's book.
Two.
One great sign that coddling may be on the wane not.
Will,
I also have two. One is a signed "Museum Grade" copy which will serve as my retirement fund when the throngs begin clamoring for Bob-meister paraphernalia, the other is my "reader" copy and looks like crap.
OneCosmos Rule #124: Obvious questions will be answered by the asker.
I always liked how Dr. Murray Bowen described mind parasites in terms of anxiety and the transmission of anxiety---through projection---often onto one's spouse,child or any other 'identified patient' in the family or system that became the sick focus to keep the system in statis, and also to keep the focus off oneself. The cure was always for one person to have the guts to begin the arduous process of differentiation of self from the crowd. But always by being in touch with the system, rather than lower brain functions such as cutoff or other kinds of coping mechinisms that only keep the anxiety recycling. Differentation is sometimes referred to as individuation.
I also like Byron Katie's four questions and a turnaround process for owning our own myriad projections, or our own mind parasites that we project on others.
Hummm.... Don't know about you Web, but Me, Myself & I, along with The Chorus in there stay pretty busy stirring up crap all by ourselves quite well, without even getting anybody else involved.
....ximese, afraid I live in a messier, more fallen world, but glad you can stay so self-contained, chap...
I could fall for Amy Winehouse pretty hard.
Last time I had these eyes for a woman it did not work out (Michele Tardif, who thrust of the mortal coil far too soon).
Amy is married, but there are plenty of followers.
Oh-oh Smoov,
Is it curtains for Ms UN already?
And does she know about Amy & Shantisha?
Now you've got me worried, Smoov. Do you mean Amy as she is now, or an idealized, post-successful-rehab, dedicated-to-a-truly-better-life kind of Amy?
I was thinking of suggesting a change in the name of this place from OC. It gets confused with OC (Old Chicago), a favorite family watering hole. Oh wait, its perfect. And daily bread. Bread and water...and George Thorogood - what else does one need? One-stop shopping! It's Bob's Quirky Mart!
Smoov - You may be headed for a fall, dude. Oh wait - nevermind.
;0]
Nice Stevie clip, but brings back memories. My wife, son, and I were at his last concert (with Clapton) at the Alpine in Wisconsin. Drove back home to Chicago in the fog after and found out the next morning his helicopter had crashed about the same time we were leaving the venue. A sad day.
Doh! Stevie, George...I'm so coonfused.
You know, I was enjoying the post, especially the Independents Review, and nodding at the mind parasites - especially the ancestor related; and cackling and giggling at the comments, then I clicked on MizzE's link to Jihad watch...amazing stuff, sure... then I clicked on the "main page... reading down... on the left...whats this picture of two carefree, delighted looking young girls with the caption 'Remember Amina and Sarah'? hmmm... sure I'll click that, and it opened into honor killings - their father, Yaser Abdel Said, in Texas, shot them dead for dating... to save his families honor.
My gigling stopped. dead.
Mind parasites.
I get it. Now.
Oh my God.
Just. Horrible.
"But there is heavy lifting required in the ME."
Heavy Lifting. Indeed. In ME and US.
It hurts.
James Lewis Gets It:
http://www.americanthinker.com/2008/01/obama_and_the_childish_left_1.html
"web said...
....ximese, afraid I live in a messier, more fallen world, but glad you can stay so self-contained, chap..."
The Lady's name is Ximeze, Web, n' you don't hafta be so afraid nor
con-frontational.
"In fact, I would go so far as to say that if you even know you have mind parasites with their own agendas, you are more evolved than around 99% of the humans who have ever lived. Most of the real wholesale evil in the world is obviously caused by failure to recognize the existence of mind parasites and consequently projecting them into others for their elimination."
Case in point.
"Liberals, of course, want us to understand the terrorists. But one of the first things I learned in my psychoanalytic training is that real empathy has nothing to do with reinforcing someone's delusions just to make them feel better. Rather, it must involve things like confrontation, interpretation, clarification, etc. So the most empathic thing you could do for a bin Laden -- for the whole Muslim world, for that matter -- is to confront them with the truth of which they are so desperately in need, for a mind deprived of truth still "needs to eat," but it will feed on lies, which in turn creates a monster. Lies are monster food. All monsters feed on lies. They are the lie made flesh."
The best explanation of Leftist "liberals" I have ever read...bar none!
Smoov said...
"It was meant ironically. But the fight does has to come to the enemy.
Real soon."
Amen to that Smoov. Amen to that.
Thank you, Ben. There are definitely times I need supervision.
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